Is a Swinger Lifestyle really for You?

This page contains some tips and advice to help you decided whether the "Swinger Lifestyle" in general and our parties in particular, are for you. But please consider; there is no better way to find out than by cumming along to an adult party.
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What is the Swinging Lifestyle?

Swinging can be defined as: recreational social sex
Usually this refers to male / female couples meeting and engaging in sexual liaisons with other couples. Such couples are commonly referred to as Swingers
Sometimes the definition of swinging and swingers encompasses more than swinger couple relationships. For some, the definition of swinging can include threesome liaisons, where a single and a couple form a sexual relationship.

Swinger Lifestyle and Swinger Parties

Swingers usually meet at a swinger party or by making contact with one another via contact-ads found in magazines, newspapers or on adult contacts web-sites - click here to find out more about our own.
Even though the number of people enjoying a swinger lifestyle is probably much higher than it has ever been, the proportion of swingers in the general population is still very small. In Britain this is estimated to be less than a half of a percent (i.e. one person in two hundred).
This tends to cause those who enjoy swinger lifestyles to think of themselves as a non-conformist and sometimes persecuted group.
In reality, swingers have very little in common with one another apart from their enthusiasm for a swinger lifestyle. Traditionally and certainly in most media portrayals, swinging is viewed as a middle-class preoccupation but today there is little truth left in this stereotype. Instead, swingers are from as broad a range of social classes and backgrounds as the population at large.
Trying to find a common interest amongst them (other than swinging) is just as difficult. They exhibit the same conflicting range of tastes in music, hobbies, sport and politics as you would expect any group of people chosen at random to.
If there is one thing that swingers do share in common, it is their distaste for doctrinaire moralising and for those who would impose their beliefs upon others.
Whilst backgrounds and interests are completely varied, there is more of a commonality with regards to the ages of swingers. It is unusual to find many that are under 25 and by far the most common age group ranges from mid 30s to mid 40s. It is not at all uncommon to find swingers who are in their 50s however and you will sometimes meet those who are over 60.
Physical looks and body sizes are again, broadly the same as any random selection of society. Although, as you might expect, there is perhaps a slightly higher proportion of figure conscious, slimmer female amongst the swinger population.
Again for obvious reasons, swingers are much more likely to have shave their body hair and have genital piercings than is the case with people from non-swinging society.

Swinging Parties and Swinger Clubs

Swingers usually meet at parties. These events may be organised by people in their own private houses or by clubs with commercial premises.
Although single females are welcome at swinging parties, this is not usually the case with single males. This may be for several reasons that even those setting the rules are not always fully conscious of themselves:

• Firstly, only a very small proportion of swinging couples want liaisons with single males.
• Secondly, males are often perceived (although in reality this is not the case) as likely to be pushy and unwilling to take no for an answer.
• Thirdly, the female form is naturally pleasing to both men and women. Therefore a party where women outnumber men is visually and erotically appealing, whereas one with too many men around can look seedy and even slightly threatening
• Fourthly, most men are homophobic to the extent that having too many male bodies in close proximity can unconsciously generate a degree of unease and stress. Women on the other hand, are usually completely comfortable in the close proximity of other female bodies and female bisexuality is generally accepted in the swinging community.

What swingers wear

What swingers do at parties

Firstly, and much more so than anything else, they do exactly same as any group of people do at any sort of party or other conventional gathering; they socialise.
They chat and enjoy a drink or two, they wander around from room to room, and they meet new people.
Where things start getting different is in the way the main topic of conversation inevitably revolves around swinging.

• “How long have you been swingers?”
• “What other parties have you been to?”
• “Is this the first time you’ve ever done anything like this?”

Do swingers practice safe sex?

It has to be admitted there are some swingers who do not practice safe sex. However, it has to realised that they can only take such risks with like-minded people and as soon as they start a sexual encounter with any who believe in protected sex, they will inevitably do the same.
The majority of swingers, do practice safe sex and they stay disease free. Although no UK studies have been carried out to reveal whether or there is a higher incidence of sexually transmitted diseases amongst those who regularly enjoy a swinging lifestyle and those who do not, there has never been a case of HIV related to swinging. It is also the experience of everyone who has any detailed knowledge or lengthily experience of the swing scene, that cases of other STDs are virtually unheard of.

Does swinging have an adverse effect on long term relationships

Many swingers will tell you that quite the reverse is true. This is certainly supported by the large number of very happily married couples one meets on the scene.
However, I have also met some very unhappy ones whose relationships break up quickly. The real answer seems to be that a swinging lifestyle can actually strengthen a truly loving relationship but can also damage relationships where either one or both partners have not been open in expressing their feelings about getting into swinging or in not thinking it through properly. Sadly, the level of trust needed to make it work is probably higher than that which most relationships are built upon The first step should be taken only when both partners are ready and feel highly confident with one another.

The rules of swinging and conventions of a swinger lifestyle

For everyone, the golden rule is that “No” always means NO. There should be no misunderstandings because everyone who ejoys the swinger lifestyle knows that they can talk openly and explicitly about what they want to do and who they want to do it with.
The second rule is respect. Respect for the other people you will meet and respect for those who are hosting the adult part where you meet them. Along with respect, friendliness, a sense of humour and open-mindedness are essential qualities that swingers who know how to enjoy swinger parties always seem to have in common. Those that don’t rarely come back again.
For couples it is important to have at least a little history together and familiarity with each others' emotional needs. The swinger lifestyle works best when couples view it as an enhancement to their existing sexual relationship, rather than as a replacement for a one that is failing.
Each must put their partner's feelings and comfort first, even if this means missing out on some or all of the fun at one adult party. There will always be another to go to but there may not be another chance to repair a relationship damaged by riding roughshod over your partner and disregarding the need for sensitivity and respect. If the swinger lifestyle is really for you, the chances are you'll readily understand all this already!