Adult Parties and Adult Dating

What swingers do at parties

Firstly, and much more so than anything else, they do exactly same as any group of people do at any sort of party or other conventional gathering; they socialise.
They chat and enjoy a drink or two, they wander around from room to room, and they meet new people.
Where things start getting different is in the way the main topic of conversation inevitably revolves around swinging:

• “How long have you been swingers?”
• “What other parties have you been to?”
• “Is this the first time you’ve ever done anything like this?”

Flirtatious conversation comes next. Its probably the second most enjoyable aspect of swinging and some people might even consider it to be the most enjoyable. Teasing, intimate secret sharing, erotic innuendoes, eye contact and subtle body language; they are all part of the fun.
Surprisingly perhaps, this is where it ends for some swingers. Not everyone at a party has sex nor does everyone even intend to. Some are happy to make a date with a couple they've met and some simply decide that they met no one they really fancied. Either way a lot of people leave any give party without having sex.
For those that do, there are different degrees of sexual participation.
Firstly there are those couples who have a rule that full penetrative sex is only allowed with one's own partner. So, although the couple may get involved in threesomes, foursomes or other group scenes, their self-imposed limits prevent this going any further than enjoying oral sex. In this case the scene typically culminates with the woman being fucked by her regular partner whist she gives oral sex to either another guy or, if she is bi-sexual, to one of the women.
Secondly there are those who have no self-imposed limitations but only one of them ends up having full sex, whilst the other partner either watches or has non-penetrative sex.
Thirdly there are those couples where one of the partners has chosen to be a non-participator. This is usually the man. His enjoyment is to watch his partner being fucked or being involved in a group sex scene and he does no more that stand on the periphery, as a voyeur to the action.

Do swingers practice safe sex?

It has to be admitted there are some swingers who do not practice safe sex. However, it has to realised that they can only take such risks with like-minded people and as soon as they start a sexual encounter with any who believe in protected sex, they will inevitably do the same.
The majority of swingers, do practice safe sex and they stay disease free. Although no UK studies have been carried out to reveal whether or there is a higher incidence of sexually transmitted diseases amongst those who regularly enjoy a swinging lifestyle and those who do not, there has never been a case of HIV related to swinging. It is also the experience of everyone who has any detailed knowledge or lengthily experience of the swing scene, that cases of other STDs are virtually unheard of.

Does swinging have an adverse effect on long term relationships

Many swingers will tell you that quite the reverse is true. This is certainly supported by the large number of very happily married couples one meets on the scene.
However, I have also met some very unhappy ones whose relationships break up quickly. The real answer seems to be that a swinging lifestyle can actually strengthen a truly loving relationship but can also damage relationships where either one or both partners have not been open in expressing their feelings about getting into swinging or in not thinking it through properly. Sadly, the level of trust needed to make it work is probably higher than that which most relationships are built upon The first step should be taken only when both partners are ready and feel highly confident with one another.

The rules of swinging and conventions of a swinger lifestyle

For everyone, the golden rule is that No always means NO There should be no misunderstandings because everyone who ejoys the swinger lifestyle knows that they can talk openly and explicitly about what they want to do and who they want to do it with.
The second rule is respect. Respect for the other people you will meet and respect for those who are hosting the adult part where you meet them. Along with respect, friendliness, a sense of humour and open-mindedness are essential qualities that swingers who know how to enjoy swinger parties always seem to have in common. Those that don't rarely come back again.
For couples it is important to have at least a little history together and familiarity with each others' emotional needs. The swinger lifestyle works best when couples view it as an enhancement to their existing sexual relationship, rather than as a replacement for a one that is failing.
Each must put their partner's feelings and comfort first, even if this means missing out on some or all of the fun at one adult party. There will always be another to go to but there may not be another chance to repair a relationship damaged by riding roughshod over your partner and disregarding the need for sensitivity and respect. If the swinger lifestyle is really for you, the chances are you'll readily understand all this already!